Invisible ailments create so much drama

Written by kim cotton on . Posted in all, On Health & Happiness

sore fingerCan you see it? That tiny lump on the finger that is creating so much fuss and drama in our little household? No, I’m having trouble seeing it too. But it’s there requiring my full attention just around dinner time when multitasking is at its peak. Funny, we had spent the day with friends at the beach and it was hardly mentioned.

But that’s only the fingertip on the iceberg. Daily there are invisible bruises that generate volumes of homework procrastination and require much attention. Bright pink bandaids are applied to scratches that don’t exist because I asked for the bedroom to be cleaned. And if there is a chance of stern words because my poppet has been naughty, no doubt an ailment will appear that needs a kiss.

It’s sweet but sometimes they just need to toughen up … ‘Darling, it’s only a flesh wound!’ 

Does your child find imaginary sores that require much love and attention?

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School lunch disaster 101

Written by kim cotton on . Posted in all, On Health & Happiness

lunch disasterHave you ever seen anything like it? This is school lunch disaster 101.

I was scared to open the bag when my daughter told me the yogurt had run all over the rest of her beautifully made fare.

The yogurt burst … for the second day in a row. And i realised I hadn’t put in the frozen brick in to keep things cool.

It’s disgusting – not so much the yogurt although it was pretty bad – but it’s a symptom of an over-wrought working mum. I need to slow down, think, smell some roses. Thank goodness the holidays are coming – i think they’re more for me than her.

Do the little disasters that start creeping in remind you that you’re only human … sometimes I can only be human, not superwoman.

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Free solution to household chores

Written by kim cotton on . Posted in all, On Health & Happiness

householdWhen I was a kid had to help with the household. It was miserable …

I collected the sticks which fell off the gum trees in the yard, raked the lawn and dusted the skirting boards. I don’t know which of these three evils was worse but I hated doing chores with a passion.

Now I do the vacuuming and nothing’s changed … But wait!

I’ve found a fabulous free solution. It’s called my daughter. Yes! She is learning at the tender age of eight that if she wants to be part of this little household then she has to contribute.

Gone are the days where all I do is handfeed her chocolates and blueberries while she reclines on the lounge watching the ABC kids programs … barking at me to fetch her another soft toy.

Tonight she had to wipe up while I put away the dishes. There were tears, gnashing of teeth, even a random ‘Whatever’ when I asked her to do the whole lot (rather than the token teaspoons) but after a short while the sink was spotless.

It felt … efficient and collaborative and freeee!

But what about that dreaded, awful, nasty, horrible vacuuming?

Hmmm … darling can you come here please?

I could get used to this.

At what age do you think it’s appropriate to get your kids to pitch in with the housework?

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A child’s sense of belonging – choosing the right school

Written by kim cotton on . Posted in all, On Health & Happiness

little school painted by a child

Learning acceptance … a child thrives in schools where there is a strong sense of belonging.

How to choose the right school for your child? It’s easy. If you feel a sense of belonging for your child and your family at the school you can’t go wrong. Kids thrive academically, socially and physcially when they feel they belong. They take less ‘sickies’ and have great role models. It’s that simple.

Sense of belonging is a big theme of mine because it plays such an important role in giving meaning and contentment to my life and that of my child’s. Without belonging life is soulless.

It was serendipity I came across some candid research at Sydney University which focused on how our children’s sense of belonging at school affects so many areas of their lives.

The writer of this paper, Chris Watkins, wrote schools that see themselves as “communities” or “families” provide a much greater foundation on which children can thrive.

He said kids who have a sense of belonging at school are more motivated to learn, have greater self-control, higher literacy levels because they’re more engaged, have higher grades generally and feel their “success was more in their hands than that of others'”. They actually like school better.


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